CARRIERS AND MOTIVATION

YOU CAN BE USED, USEFUL, OR USELESS — THE CHOICE IS YOURS

by MYCIRCLE on December 6, 2025

There is a particular street I walk through often. And every time I walk past a certain spot, I find the same guy. Some days he’s working—pushing a wheelbarrow, lifting heavy loads, running errands with energy like he has purpose. Other days, he’s surrounded by his friends, fighting over something so small yet so loud that the entire neighborhood becomes unplanned audience. And sometimes, he sits calmly, smoking weed, laughing uncontrollably, behaving in ways that can swing between a grown man and a small child eating sand and thinking it’s chocolate.

Watching this guy taught me something powerful. It whispered something louder than a lecture hall, clearer than a motivational quote, sharper than the advice of elders.

I can be used.
I can be useful.
I can be useless.

And that same lesson applies to every young person reading this right now.

Because everyone is of use—but not of the same use.

THE THREE STATES OF A YOUNG PERSON

1️⃣ You Can Be Used

Being used is when someone takes advantage of what you have without considering who you are. You can be used:

For your time
For your strength
For your creativity
For your talent
For your resources

But here’s the problem with being used: your contribution is valued, but you are not.

Many young people fall into the trap of being used because:

They lack direction
They crave acceptance
They want quick rewards
They are afraid to say no

Some are used in relationships emotionally, financially, physically.
Some are used in workplaces without recognition.
Some are used by friends who only remember them when they need something.

The worst form of being used is when someone convinces you that your usefulness belongs to them, not to you.

2️⃣ You Can Be Useful

This is different. Being useful means you add value—not because someone manipulates you, but because you choose to.

To be useful is to:

Be a solution
Be dependable
Be intentional
Use your gifts with purpose

When the same guy I see on the street is working, he is useful. He earns. He removes shame from his family’s table. He shows dignity in labor. He demonstrates determination. That usefulness may not trend on social media, but it feeds him, it builds him, and it teaches others.

You are useful when:

You take responsibility
You learn a skill
You serve with excellence
You develop yourself

Being useful may not make you famous, but it makes you valuable.

3️⃣ You Can Be Useless

Let’s be honest—many youths fall into this category not because they are naturally useless, but because they underutilize the potential inside them.

A phone with 2% battery and no charger—useless for the moment.
A car with no wheels—beautiful but useless.
A dream never acted on—perfectly useless.

Smoking your future away, wasting your time, fighting battles that don’t matter, following trends that don’t lead anywhere—not only makes you lose time, it makes you lose value.

The greatest tragedy is not a young person who fails.
The tragedy is a young person who does not try.

EVERY YOUNG PERSON HAS POTENTIAL — BUT NOT EVERY POTENTIAL GROWS

Just because you have seeds doesn’t mean you have crops.
Just because you have a voice doesn’t mean you will be heard.
Just because you have talent doesn’t mean you will succeed.

Potential becomes power through:

Discipline
Direction
Dedication
Decisions

Your skill must grow.
Your character must mature.
Your mind must expand.
Your choices must improve.

The world does not reward the most gifted; it rewards the most applied.

WHAT YOU DO TODAY IS THE DRAFT OF YOUR FUTURE

That young man by the road is writing his future, one choice at a time:

Work — leads to earning.
Fighting — leads to injury or police.
Smoking — leads to addiction or regret.

Every action is a seed.
Every seed has a harvest.
Every harvest is proof that your future listens to your present.

If you treat your life like a joke, do not be surprised when people stop taking you seriously.

FINAL ADVICE TO EVERY YOUTH

You are not too young to be great.
You are not too old to start.
You are not too small to matter.

You are either:
Being used… by others,
Being useful… to others,
or Being useless… to your future.

But the power is in your hands.

You can be used.
You can be useful.
You can be useless.

The choice is not destiny’s — it is yours. 💡🔥

CARRIERS AND MOTIVATION

Leadership Begins Early: Why You Don’t Need a Title to Lead

by MYCIRCLE on November 11, 2025

Many young adults believe leadership is something reserved for “future them”—the older version of themselves who will have a job, a family, a title, or more life experience. But this mindset is the reason many people never discover their true leadership potential until it’s almost too late.

The truth is simple but powerful:
Leadership begins early.
You don’t grow into leadership by accident; you grow into it by practicing leadership long before anyone gives you a title.

Leadership is not a position. It is not a salary increase. It is not a car key, a fancy office, or a CEO badge.
Leadership is a mindset.
And the earlier you develop that mindset, the further you will go in life.

✅ Leadership Starts With Who You Are, Not What You Have

Real leadership is about character. Responsibility. Initiative. Influence. The ability to see a problem and think, “What can I do about this?”
You don’t need a title to:

Keep your environment clean
Solve problems
Speak kindly
Make decisions
Take responsibility
Inspire others
Show discipline
Do the right thing even when it’s uncomfortable

These small habits form the foundation of leadership long before you ever step into any formal role.

✅ Young People Lead Every Day — Even When They Don’t Realize It

A teenager who organizes their friends to study for exams is practicing leadership.
A young adult who starts a small hustle to support themselves is already displaying leadership.
A youth who volunteers at church or takes initiative in their community is exercising leadership.

We often limit the word “leadership” to positions like “Team Lead,” “Director,” or “Chairperson.” But leadership begins with the little decisions you make daily.
Before leadership shows in public, it grows in private.

✅ Leadership Is a Habit, Not an Age Requirement

You do not magically become a leader at 30 or 40.
You become a leader by developing leadership habits early.

Here are a few leadership-building habits young adults should start now:

1. Take Responsibility Instead of Making Excuses

Leaders do not run away from responsibility. They face challenges, learn from mistakes, and take accountability.

2. Learn How to Communicate Clearly

Good communication is one of the strongest leadership skills. A leader must express ideas effectively, listen well, and resolve conflict calmly.

3. Stop Waiting for Permission

Leaders take initiative. They don’t wait for someone to tell them what to do—they see a need and respond.

4. Serve Others Without Feeling “Too Big”

Great leaders lead with service. They offer help, support people, and make others better.

5. Discipline Yourself Daily

Self-leadership comes before leading others. You cannot control a team if you cannot control yourself.

✅ Leadership Mindset: Seeing Beyond the Present

Many young people focus only on the present—school, bills, relationships, enjoyment. But leaders think beyond now. They think about the future they want and consciously build towards it.

Leadership mindset means:

Planning ahead
Thinking critically
Making decisions with long-term impact
Developing emotional intelligence
Being self-aware

These are not age-based qualities; they are choice-based qualities.

✅ Why Leadership Begins Early

Starting leadership early gives you advantages that others may never enjoy:

✅ 1. You Grow Faster Than Your Peers

While others wait for opportunities, you create yours.

✅ 2. You Build Confidence Through Experience

Leadership builds maturity, communication skills, and self-belief.

✅ 3. You Attract Opportunities

People trust those who take initiative. You become the go-to person when something important needs to be done.

✅ 4. You Avoid Costly Mistakes Later in Life

Young leaders already have the emotional intelligence and decision-making skills that adults struggle with.

✅ 5. You Become a Positive Influence

Leadership is about leaving people better than you met them. You inspire, encourage, and elevate those around you.

✅ Leadership Without a Title: What It Looks Like in Daily Life

Here are real-life examples of leadership in action — without any titles attached:

Cleaning a place without being asked
Helping a classmate or colleague understand something
Resolving conflicts among friends peacefully
Setting a good example at home
Starting a side hustle to support yourself
Mentoring younger ones in your community
Using your social media to inspire, not mislead
Being dependable and trustworthy

Leadership is in the little things.

✅ Final Thoughts: Leadership Starts With You

Leadership is not a destination; it is a journey that begins now — right where you are. You don’t need a degree, a position, or a title to start.
You just need courage.
You need discipline.
You need responsibility.
And most importantly, you need the mindset that says:
“I can influence my world positively, no matter how young I am.”

Great leaders didn’t start leading because they were old.
They started leading because they were ready.
And readiness is not an age — it’s a decision.

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Why Every Teenager and Young Adult Should Be at “Innovating for Impact” This Saturday

by MYCIRCLE on November 11, 2025

In today’s world, young people are growing up in one of the most dynamic and unpredictable eras ever recorded. Technology is evolving faster than textbooks can keep up, new career paths are emerging every year, and the values that shape society are constantly shifting. At the same time, teenagers and young adults are facing increasing exposure to negative influences—online and offline. If we don’t catch them young, guide them with purpose, and equip them with the right mindset, society risks becoming a dumping ground for lifestyles that destroy instead of build.

This is exactly why MY CIRCLE CARES is hosting “INNOVATING FOR IMPACT 2025” this Saturday.
And if you are a parent, guardian, mentor, teacher, youth leader, or a young person searching for direction, this is one event you cannot afford to miss.

A Space for Young Minds to Grow, Connect, and Transform

Unlike regular seminars that feel formal and exhausting, this event is designed as a productive, fun, and interactive environment where meaningful interactions take place naturally. The blend of networking, panel discussions, practical sessions, games, leadership talk, technology insights, spirituality, and debate provides a rare opportunity for young people to learn from experts, meet like-minded peers, and discover their inner potential.

Teenagers and young adults don’t just want to be talked to—they want to be engaged, inspired, challenged, and empowered.
That’s why this event is uniquely crafted to speak their language while shaping their future with values that matter.

Why This Event Matters—Especially for Young People

1. Exposure to Positive Role Models

Young people need to see examples of what they can become. At “Innovating for Impact,” they will meet leaders, entrepreneurs, creatives, and professionals who were once like them—young, unsure, curious—but chose the right path. Exposure to such personalities helps them make better decisions and dream bigger.

2. Leadership Begins Early

A lot of young adults wait until they become older before thinking about leadership. But leadership is not a title; it is a mindset.
This event helps teenagers and youths understand:

how to take responsibility for their actions
how to make decisions that reflect their future
how to stand out positively in school, community, and society
how to influence their peers positively instead of being influenced negatively

We must build leaders now, not later.

3. Technology Is the New Advantage

Like it or not, tech is the present and the future. From AI to digital skills, innovation is shaping how we work, communicate, and solve problems.

Teenagers today have the best opportunity ever to:

learn about emerging technologies
understand how to use tech for school, business, and impact
see career opportunities in innovation
develop practical digital skills early

Instead of using technology only for entertainment or distractions, this event will open their eyes to how technology can improve their lives and empower their dreams.

4. Building a Positive Lifestyle in a Negative World

The world is full of influences—some positive, many negative. Without proper direction, young people can easily fall into destructive habits or lifestyles that limit their future.

This event helps them:

understand who they are
embrace values that build character
learn how to make smart lifestyle choices
avoid peer pressure
become strong mentally, socially, and spiritually

If we don’t teach them now, society will teach them the wrong things.

5. Spiritual Intelligence for a Balanced Life

Spiritual grounding is one of the strongest foundations for developing purpose, discipline, and moral clarity.
Our spiritual talk segment teaches young people how to:

connect their talents and dreams with God’s purpose
live with integrity
build a value-driven life they will be proud of
develop inner strength to resist negativity

Our society needs young people who are strong internally—not just socially or academically.

6. A Day of Learning, Fun, and Interactive Experiences

This event is not a boring lecture.
We designed it to include:

✅ Games
✅ Competitions
✅ Practical sessions
✅ Real-time demonstrations
✅ A debate segment
✅ Networking with peers
✅ Exposure to real-life opportunities
✅ A fun, relaxed, youth-friendly atmosphere

Young people learn better when they are relaxed and enjoying the experience.

7. A Chance to Belong to a Positive Community

MY CIRCLE CARES is more than an event organizer—it is a movement that promotes positive lifestyles, innovation, leadership, and community impact.

When young people join us, they don’t just attend an event—they become part of a family committed to growth, positivity, and purpose.

Why Parents Should Encourage Their Children to Attend

Every parent dreams of a child who will grow up responsible, disciplined, visionary, and successful. But these qualities don’t appear automatically—they are shaped by the environments children are exposed to.

This event provides:

A safe and positive space
Exposure to high-quality mentors
Productive use of their weekend
Healthy friendships and peer influence
Life skills they will carry forever

In a world filled with distractions, this Saturday may become one of the most important days in your child’s journey.

Conclusion: Let’s Catch Them Young—Let’s Shape the Future

“Innovating for Impact” is not just an event—it is a responsibility we owe the next generation.
If young people don’t learn to build society, society will break them.
If we don’t train them now, we will struggle to fix them later.

This Saturday, give them the opportunity to grow.
Give them the chance to dream.
Give them the environment that shapes greatness.

Their future starts now. Their impact starts here.

Don’t let them miss it.
This Saturday by 10am

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The Easy Buy System: Why Shortcuts Can Lead to Long-Term Pain

by MYCIRCLE on August 26, 2025

The Easy Buy System: A Shortcut That Feels Good but Hurts Later

The easy buy system has become popular in today’s society, especially among young people who desire the latest phones, gadgets, or lifestyle items but lack the cash upfront. The idea is simple: you pay a small deposit, take the device home immediately, and then complete the payment in installments.

On the surface, it feels like a smart move — after all, you get to enjoy your new phone without waiting. But here’s the bitter truth: many discover after a few months that they have paid nearly double the original price. What looked like an easy shortcut turns into a long, painful journey of regret.

This lesson doesn’t stop at phones or gadgets. It mirrors the broader life choices many young people are making today — chasing shortcuts instead of building solid foundations.

Why Shortcuts Seem Sweet but End Bitter

In our fast-paced world, patience is often seen as old-fashioned. Everyone wants quick success: quick money, quick fame, quick recognition. Social media has amplified this desire, making it look like life is a sprint rather than a marathon.

But here’s the reality: shortcuts like the easy buy system are like sugary snacks. They taste sweet at first but leave you with a stomachache. In financial terms, it leaves you paying more than you bargained for. In life terms, shortcuts often trap people in cycles of frustration and wasted years.

Think about it:

People who cut corners in education often struggle later when real skills are needed.
Those who chase fast money through fraud or gambling may enjoy temporary thrills but usually end up in trouble.
Relationships built on lies or shallow attraction eventually collapse.

The principle is the same — shortcuts bring long-term pain.

Patience Is Cheaper than Pressure

The guy who bought his phone through the easy buy system realized something powerful: If he had just been patient, saved a little more, and put in extra effort, he could have bought the phone outright — cheaper and stress-free.

This is a metaphor for life. Patience is underrated, but it pays off. When you wait, prepare, and grow gradually, you save yourself unnecessary pain. True success requires:

Discipline – resisting the urge to grab every shiny opportunity.
Consistency – putting in daily effort, even if results are slow.
Vision – understanding that today’s sacrifice creates tomorrow’s comfort.

Why the Youths of Today Must Learn This Lesson

Our present society is filled with distractions and “easy buy” systems beyond phones. There are easy loans, quick schemes, and “get-rich-quick” promises. Sadly, many young people fall for them and later discover they are trapped in debts, regrets, or wasted time.

But imagine what could happen if youths embraced patience and hard work instead:

Instead of rushing into debt, they could save and invest wisely.
Instead of chasing fast money, they could build businesses or skills that generate lasting income.
Instead of comparing themselves to others online, they could focus on their unique journey.

The truth is, the easy buy system mindset isn’t just about phones — it’s about how we view life. Do we want temporary excitement that costs us double later, or are we willing to wait and enjoy lasting peace?

Practical Steps to Avoid the “Easy Buy” Trap in Life

Set Clear Priorities – Not everything is urgent. Sometimes, that phone upgrade can wait. Focus on what truly matters.
Learn Delayed Gratification – Train yourself to enjoy waiting. The longer you wait, the sweeter the reward.
Budget and Save – Instead of jumping into credit, save gradually. Small sacrifices today prevent bigger pains tomorrow.
Invest in Skills, Not Just Stuff – A phone depreciates, but skills appreciate. Build yourself before building possessions.
Think Long-Term – Before making any decision, ask: How will this affect me in one year? Five years?

Final Thought: Don’t Let Easy Today Become Painful Tomorrow

The easy buy system may look convenient, but it’s a trap. It’s a reminder that shortcuts often cost us more than we expect. For today’s youths, the message is simple: don’t let impatience steal your future. Success built on shortcuts fades quickly, but success built on patience lasts a lifetime.

So, the next time you feel tempted to rush into something just because it feels “easy,” pause. Remind yourself: It is better to wait and pay less than to rush and pay double — both in money and in life.

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The Power of Your Hands: Why Hustling Beats Having a Sugar Mummy

by MYCIRCLE on June 29, 2025

The Power of Your Hands: Why Hustling Beats Having a Sugar Mummy

This weekend, I had one of those conversations that sticks in your head longer than you expect.
A female friend casually suggested I get a sugar mummy — yes, you read that right — to help settle my bills, just like her own sugar daddy does for her.

Now, I’m not judging her choices. Life can be tough. But my response was simple:
“Instead of seeking shortcuts, play around with your hands — you’ll be amazed what they can create.”

In a world where everyone wants fast money, fewer people want to talk about the true power of your hands — the strength, the creativity, the talent, the potential hidden inside you, waiting to explode. And today, we’re going to explore that.

🧠 Why Do People Choose the Shortcut?

The sugar mummy/sugar daddy trend is popular for one reason: ease.

No one likes struggling. When someone offers you money in exchange for your time or attention, it feels like a quick solution to your financial stress. But what we often forget is this:

Every shortcut has a price — and most of the time, it’s your self-worth.

Let’s be real:

You start depending on someone who can walk away at any time.
You may lose your sense of purpose or confidence.
You start choosing convenience over growth.
And you may even lose the time and energy to build something meaningful for yourself.

💪🏽 The Power of Your Hands: More Than Just a Phrase

When I say “the power of your hands,” I’m talking about everything you can do, build, create, sell, design, offer, and learn — using your own skills and efforts.

Your hands represent:

Your hustle
Your talent
Your creativity
Your productivity
Your purpose

From braiding hair to baking, from graphic design to tutoring, from crafts to coding, there are a thousand things your hands can do that bring not just money — but pride, ownership, and freedom.

🔥 Real Hustles You Can Start With Your Hands

Need ideas? Here are a few:

📱 Sell thrift clothes online
🍪 Start baking snacks or drinks like zobo, chin chin, or sesame cookies
🧵 Offer tailoring or alterations
💻 Learn a tech skill (graphic design, web development, digital marketing)
✍️ Offer content writing or editing services
📸 Photography or phone-based videography
🎨 Sell hand-crafted jewelry, soaps, or art

No business is too small when you’re starting. Every big dream started in someone’s hands.

🚫 Why the Sugar Mummy/Sugar Daddy Life Isn’t Sustainable

It may look shiny on the surface, but the risks are real:

Emotional manipulation
Power imbalance
Fear of rejection or being replaced
Living someone else’s dream instead of chasing yours
Feeling stuck, with no backup plan or legacy

Shortcuts might give you quick wins. But hustle gives you lasting freedom.

🎯 Choosing the Harder Path Is Choosing Yourself

When you choose to hustle instead of relying on someone else’s pocket:

You build confidence
You grow skills
You earn respect
You create options
You gain independence

And most importantly, you start to believe in yourself.

It’s not always easy. There will be days you’re tired. Broke. Frustrated.
But at the end of each day, you’ll know: “I did this. No one gave it to me. I earned it.”

💬 Final Word: Don’t Trade Your Future for Temporary Comfort

Whether you’re a guy being tempted by a sugar mummy, or a lady drawn into the sugar daddy lifestyle — think long-term. That person may pay your rent today, but they won’t fund your dreams tomorrow.

But your hands? They’ll still be with you.
So train them. Use them. Respect them.
Because in those hands is the power to change your story.

🚀 Call to Action

What’s one skill your hands can do today that you could turn into profit?
Comment below and let’s inspire others together!
And if this post speaks to you — like, share, and tag someone who needs to hear this

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Fatherhood Beyond Blood: Celebrating the Real Heroes of Responsibility

by MYCIRCLE on June 15, 2025

Fatherhood Beyond Blood: Celebrating the Real Heroes of Responsibility

Today is Father’s Day — a day filled with appreciation, gifts, and sweet words dedicated to dads around the world. But beyond the hugs, cards, and social media posts, let’s take a moment to reflect on what truly makes someone a father.

Because truth be told, being a father isn’t just about biology.
It’s not limited to the man who shares your DNA. It’s about something far deeper, richer, and more meaningful. It’s about responsibility, guidance, and the impact a man has on the lives around him.

Who Is a Real Father?

A real father is not defined by the blood that runs through a child’s veins, but by the love, time, and responsibility he commits to another life. Whether you raised your own child, stepped in as a stepfather, mentored someone in need, or fathered a whole community of youths — your role is valid. Your impact is felt.

“A father is someone you look up to, no matter how tall you grow.” — Unknown

Some of the most powerful father figures we know today have raised children they didn’t biologically create. They’ve been present at school games, wiped tears, taught values, paid bills, and carried emotional burdens — simply because they chose to be there.

More Than a Title — It’s a Role

In our communities, we see men who may never have had children of their own, but they carry fatherhood in their character. They look out for the boys in their street. They protect the girls in their churches. They provide guidance, direction, and a shoulder to lean on.

They are teachers, uncles, coaches, neighbors, mentors, pastors, and friends. They correct with love, challenge with purpose, and lead by example. That is fatherhood beyond blood.

The Weight of Responsibility

True fathers are those who rise to responsibility — not because it is easy, but because it is necessary. In today’s world where many youths are drifting without role models, we need more men who will take up the mantle of fatherhood not just at home but in society at large.

They’re the ones who:

Sponsor a child through school.
Offer mentorship to the fatherless.
Discipline with compassion.
Model integrity in a world of shortcuts.
Provide emotional safety even in silence.

The Bible and the Heart of a Father

Even the Bible supports the idea that fatherhood is about responsibility, not biology. Joseph wasn’t Jesus’ biological father, but he was still entrusted with the upbringing of the Savior. His obedience, protection, and presence mattered — and God honored that.

“A father to the fatherless, a defender of widows, is God in his holy dwelling.” — Psalm 68:5

This shows us that God values men who step into the gap, especially for the vulnerable. That is the very heart of fatherhood.

Let’s Celebrate the Unsung Heroes

On this Father’s Day, let’s go beyond just celebrating the men who gave us life. Let’s also celebrate:

The foster fathers who opened their homes.
The stepfathers who erased the word “step.”
The mentors who taught life lessons.
The pastors and teachers who sowed seeds of wisdom.
The neighbors who paid school fees quietly.
The uncles and friends who were always there.

They may not carry the title “Dad,” but they lived the role to the fullest.

A Call to Men: Be the Father Someone Needs

If you’re reading this as a man, this is your call to action:
You don’t need a child of your own to be a father to someone. There is a child, a teen, or even a young adult around you who needs guidance, encouragement, correction, and care.

Your presence can anchor someone’s storm.
Your words can restore hope.
Your example can build legacy.

You never know the lives you’ll touch just by showing up.

In Conclusion: Fatherhood Is a Choice

Fatherhood is not just a biological event. It is a daily decision to show up, to love, to provide, to teach, to correct, and to lead.

This Father’s Day, we honor not just those who brought us into the world, but those who stood by us when the world was unkind.

To every man who chose to care, protect, and guide — Happy Father’s Day. The world is better because of you.

💬 Call to Action:

Who has been a father figure in your life, even if they weren’t your biological dad?
Drop their name or tribute in the comments — let’s celebrate the real fathers today.

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“God Will Provide” Is Not a Career Plan – Why Youth Must First Work, Then Pray

by MYCIRCLE on June 11, 2025

“God Will Provide” Is Not a Career Plan – Seek Work, Then Seek Blessing

Recently, I told a friend that I couldn’t afford something at the time. Her response?
“God will provide.”

At that moment, I had to pause. I wasn’t angry — just disappointed. Not in her, but in how many young people now hide behind that phrase as a substitute for real effort.

Let me be honest with you: Yes, God provides. But God blesses effort, not idleness. There is no promise in Scripture that God will bless “the sitting of your hands.” The Bible says:

“The Lord your God will bless the work of your hands.”
— Deuteronomy 28:12

Notice: Work. Hands. Effort. Action. That’s the principle many young people are missing.

The Danger of Misusing Faith

We’ve created a culture — especially among church-going youth — where “waiting on God” is code for doing nothing. Many young people sit at home with no job, no hustle, no direction — but plenty of prayer meetings. Some will even fast for 21 days without sending out a single job application or learning a skill.

Let’s be clear: That is not faith. That is fantasy.

Faith is not a substitute for responsibility. It is a partner to action. Prayer without effort is presumption, not faith.

Work is Worship, Too

We often forget that work is a form of worship. God created Adam and gave him the garden to tend and keep before sin ever entered the world (Genesis 2:15). Work is not a punishment; it’s a purpose.

Saying “God will provide” without trying to improve your life is like refusing to plant seeds but still expecting a harvest.

Yes, God opened the Red Sea.
Yes, God fed Elijah with ravens.
But those were miracles — not models for daily life.

Even Jesus, the Son of God, worked as a carpenter before starting His ministry. He wasn’t sitting around waiting for a breakthrough.

Youth Must Rise: Purpose Before Provision

If you’re a young person reading this, here’s what I want to tell you from my heart:

Don’t just wait for provision — pursue purpose.

Start something. Learn something. Sell something. Volunteer. Intern. Make mistakes. Try again. Don’t wait for the perfect job to fall into your lap while scrolling Instagram and quoting Jeremiah 29:11. It won’t work like that.

Opportunities often come to those already in motion.

The Right Words Matter

If my friend had said,

“Work hard, and God will bless you,”
I would have smiled. That’s the truth. That’s the kind of faith we should promote. Not a passive faith, but a productive one.

What Should You Do Instead?

Here are 5 things every youth should do right now:

1. Learn a Skill

Digital marketing, graphic design, writing, sewing, coding, hairdressing — anything. The world is skill-driven now.

2. Start Small

Don’t wait for a big breakthrough. Sell snacks, offer home services, teach kids — whatever it is, start where you are.

3. Be Consistent

Success doesn’t come overnight. If you stay consistent in your hustle, growth will come.

4. Pray Alongside Progress

Yes, keep praying. But pray over your efforts—not your emptiness.

5. Believe in the Blessing

Once your hands are moving, you can now confidently ask God to bless them. That’s where faith works best—on the go.

In Conclusion: Faith + Work(Action) = Results

To every youth reading this: Stop using “God will provide” as a crutch. Instead, take steps. Take risks. Take action. The real gospel teaches faith with works. When you work, God works with you.

So next time you want to tell someone “God will provide,” make sure they’re actually doing something God can bless.

Because even heaven asks:

“What do you have in your hand?” — Exodus 4:2

💬 Call to Action:

Are you working or just waiting? Share your story in the comments below. What step are you taking today toward your future?
Let’s talk real faith — the kind that works.

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EFCC vs. Pastors: Why Wealth and Poverty Get Investigated Differently in Nigeria

by MYCIRCLE on June 9, 2025

EFCC Investigates Wealth, Pastors Investigate Poverty—Nigeria’s Money Paradox

EFCC vs. Pastors. In Nigeria, wealth and poverty aren’t just economic conditions —they’re spiritual, cultural, and political discussions. Recently, I came across a thought that sparked deep curiosity:
“The EFCC investigates the source of people’s wealth, and pastors investigate the source of people’s poverty.”
Let that sink in. It’s both hilarious and hauntingly accurate. This blog post dives deep into this reality, unwrapping the layers of irony, societal dysfunction, and human behavior that surround money — whether you have too much or too little of it.

The EFCC and the Curious Case of Wealth

The Economic and Financial Crimes Commission (EFCC) is Nigeria’s watchdog for financial crimes. From politicians to Instagram celebrities, the EFCC has its lens focused on individuals who rise quickly through the ranks of wealth.

Why the suspicion?
In a country riddled with corruption, sudden wealth raises eyebrows. Who wouldn’t question a 25-year-old driving a ₦120 million car? The EFCC’s job is simple:

If you suddenly start balling, we need receipts.

While this approach has its merits, it also creates a culture of fear around success. It sends a subtle message: “If you make it big, you better have a story — or we’ll write one for you.”

Pastors and the Theology of Lack

Flip the coin and walk into a typical Nigerian church. You’ll hear pastors asking probing questions like:

“What sin is blocking your breakthrough?”
“Who is behind your financial stagnation?”
“Have you paid your tithe?”

Here, poverty isn’t just economic; it’s spiritual. The search for the source of poverty leads to ancestral curses, marine spirits, and village witches. Prayer sessions are organized. Fasting is prescribed. Seeds must be sown. Deliverance becomes a monthly affair.

The unspoken idea:

If you’re broke, it’s not just about the economy — there must be a spiritual enemy at play.

Double Standards in the Investigation of Life Outcomes

It’s fascinating how the same society looks at success and struggle with such contrasting attitudes:

Wealth? Must be fraud.
Poverty? Must be spiritual.

This shows our relationship with money is warped. We neither trust those who have it, nor do we offer logical explanations for those who lack it. Both ends of the financial spectrum are subject to investigations — but from wildly different institutions.

Culture, Control, and the Psychology Behind It

This paradox isn’t just funny; it’s deeply revealing. Here’s why this trend exists:

1. Control Through Suspicion

The EFCC instills fear to maintain control. It’s a way to discourage financial recklessness or criminal activity — but it can also discourage genuine entrepreneurship.

2. Control Through Spiritual Authority

Pastors leverage spiritual explanations to maintain relevance. If poverty is spiritual, the solution must be divine — and they are the gatekeepers to that divine intervention.

3. Distrust in Systems

Both cases highlight a deep distrust in institutional systems. Nigerians don’t believe the system creates wealth or reduces poverty fairly. So we look for unseen causes.

Intriguing Irony: Who Investigates the Middle Class?

Interestingly, no one investigates the middle-class. Why? Because they’re not suspiciously successful, nor are they spiritually stagnant. They’re surviving — and in Nigeria, survival doesn’t get headlines.

Final Thoughts: A Society Obsessed with Outcomes

This comparison is more than satire — it’s a mirror. Whether it’s EFCC raiding your mansion or a pastor laying hands on your bank account, everyone wants to know why your life turned out the way it did.

And maybe, just maybe, we should stop searching for mysterious sources and start looking at:

Education
Job creation
Policy reform
Mental health
Entrepreneurship training

Let’s not be so caught up in suspicion that we forget to build systems that make wealth achievable and poverty escapable — without needing anointing oil or anti-graft squads.

What do you think? Have you ever been “investigated” — either by the EFCC or your pastor? Drop your thoughts in the comments and share this post with someone who needs a good laugh and a moment of reflection.

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Create the Life You Want to Live: Not the One You’re Told to Live

by MYCIRCLE on June 5, 2025

Create the Life You Want to Live.

Let’s be honest: from the moment we could talk, someone was already whispering (or shouting) at us about how life should be.

“Be a doctor.”
“Get a good job.”
“Don’t dream too big.”
“Follow the rules.”
“Buy a house, settle down, retire at 60.”

Sound familiar?

It’s like there’s this invisible checklist we’re all expected to follow. And while some people may find fulfillment on that path, many of us secretly wonder: Whose life am I living?

If that question has ever crossed your mind — congratulations. You’re waking up.

And here’s the beautiful truth: You don’t have to live the life you were told to live. You get to create your own life.

The Blueprint is Optional

Society loves blueprints. They make life feel safe, predictable, and “normal.” But the problem is — you’re not normal. You’re you. A once-in-a-lifetime blend of ideas, desires, talents, quirks, and callings.

Trying to force yourself into someone else’s blueprint is like asking a sunflower to grow in a shoebox.

It won’t work.
It’ll look “okay” from a distance.
But deep down, you’ll feel stuck, stifled, and misaligned.

So take a deep breath, grab a fresh page, and start sketching your own plan — one that actually fits you.

Start With the Voice Inside You

Creating the life you want to live begins with listening — not to the noise around you, but to the voice within you. That whisper that says:

“There’s more to me than this.”
“I’ve always wanted to try…”
“This version of success doesn’t feel right.”

That voice is not your enemy — it’s your compass.

The reason so many people feel lost is because they’ve spent their lives tuning out their inner voice just to fit in. But once you start listening again, you’ll realize: you’ve always known what you truly want — you just needed permission to go after it.

Good news: permission granted.

You Don’t Owe Anyone a Boring Life

Here’s a wild idea: what if your life could actually excite you?

You don’t have to live for weekends. You don’t have to dread Monday mornings. You don’t have to settle for “it pays the bills” or “at least it’s safe.”

Yes, responsibilities matter. But so does your joy. Your passion. Your sense of meaning. You can honor both.

You don’t owe your old teachers, your friends, your parents, or society a life that makes sense to them.

You only owe yourself the courage to live a life that feels right to you.

Design with Intention, Not Default

Creating the life you want means choosing — not drifting.

Ask yourself:

What do I actually value?
What kind of lifestyle energizes me?
What do I want my days to feel like?

You may realize you don’t need more things — you need more time, more freedom, more purpose. Or maybe you want to create, teach, build, serve, or explore.

Don’t just chase goals because they’re trending. Pursue the ones that make you feel alive.

Expect Resistance — From Others and From Yourself

When you start living differently, people may not understand. They might say:

“Why would you leave a stable job?”
“That’s risky.”
“Sam, you’ve changed.”

And they’d be right — you are changing. You’re shedding expectations. You’re stepping into authenticity. And that’s not always comfortable — but it’s necessary.

Even your own mind will resist you sometimes. Fear will show up. Doubt will whisper. Imposter syndrome will party in your brain.

Let them visit — but don’t let them make decisions. You’re in charge now.

What You Build Will Be Worth It

Building a life on your own terms isn’t always easy — but it’s always worth it.

It may mean:

Starting that business with no guarantees.
Writing that book that’s been tugging at your heart.
Moving to a city that matches your energy.
Saying “yes” to a calling and “no” to comfort.

It may not make sense to others. But if it brings you peace, passion, and purpose, then it doesn’t have to.

You Have One Life — Don’t Live It on Repeat

If you needed a reminder, here it is:

You don’t have to live the life others designed for you.
You don’t have to settle for “fine” when you’re capable of fulfilled.
You are allowed to want more, even if others don’t understand why.

Because at the end of the day, you’re the one who lives your life. Not them.

So make it count. Make it yours.
Create the life you want to live — not the one you were told to.

Enjoy!

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Birthday Reflection: A Heartfelt Look Back, Gratitude, and Goals for the Year Ahead

by MYCIRCLE on April 25, 2025

Today’s not just another day—it’s my birthday, and I’m taking a moment to pause, reflect, and appreciate life in its fullness. Each year brings new experiences, new lessons, and deeper awareness of who I am and who I’m becoming. That’s why I love writing a birthday reflection—it helps me center myself and mark the moment with meaning.

🌟 Looking Back: The Journey So Far

This past year has been one of transformation. I faced challenges that stretched me, experienced moments that humbled me, and celebrated wins that reminded me how far I’ve come. My birthday reflection wouldn’t be complete without acknowledging both the growth and the grace that carried me through.

There were quiet nights where I questioned everything, and bright mornings where hope showed up unexpectedly. Through it all, I’ve learned to lean into the process—even when it’s uncomfortable—because every step has purpose.

🙏🏼 A Birthday Gratitude List

Gratitude has become one of my greatest tools for staying grounded. As I enter this new chapter, here’s what I’m most thankful for:

The gift of life, health, and strength — the foundation of everything.
Supportive friends and family who show up in quiet and loud ways.
My team, My Circle Cares — your dedication, energy, and commitment continue to inspire me. You’ve been a vital part of my journey, and I’m grateful for the vision we’re building together.
Lessons disguised as challenges — the hard moments that helped shape my strength.
Peace in my heart, even when everything around me feels loud.
The small, daily joys: a good laugh, a warm meal, a quiet morning, a kind word.

Writing this birthday reflection reminds me that even the simplest blessings are worth celebrating.

💡 Lessons I’ve Learned

With every birthday, I gain more clarity, confidence, and courage. This past year taught me some powerful truths that I’ll carry with me moving forward. Here are a few of the biggest lessons:

Trust is everything. Trusting others, trusting the process, and, most importantly, trusting myself have helped me stand out—not just in my community but also in my workplace. Trust builds bridges, and it’s the reason I’ve been able to lead, connect, and grow.
Believe in yourself—even when the world doubts you. There were moments when it felt like no one saw the vision I carried. But I stood tall, trusted my instincts, and kept moving. Self-belief has been my fuel, especially in seasons where support was minimal.
Failure isn’t the end—it’s a stepping stone. Some of the setbacks I once feared have turned out to be the very reasons I’m where I am today. Failure has taught me resilience, strategy, and humility. It has built me up beyond anything I ever envisioned for myself.
Protect your peace at all costs. Not everything deserves your reaction. Some things are best left in silence and growth.
Rest is productive. Hustle is great, but rest is sacred. It’s how I’ve stayed centered, focused, and creative.
Celebrate your progress. You don’t have to be “there” yet. Being on the journey is already worth celebrating.
Trust divine timing. Some doors open exactly when they’re meant to—not when we’re in a rush.
Say “yes” to joy. You’re allowed to experience happiness without guilt. Life isn’t just about survival—it’s about living fully.

🎯 Goals for My New Year

As I blow out my birthday candles, I’m also setting meaningful intentions for this new chapter. Each goal is inspired by growth, gratitude, and a desire to live purposefully:

Give back to the society that has played a huge part in shaping me. Whether it’s through mentorship, support, or acts of service—I want to pour into the same community that has poured into me.
Volunteer more and better. I want to serve not just when it’s convenient, but with deeper commitment and intention. Impact matters, and I’m ready to show up in more meaningful ways.
Be more present and intentional with my time. Life moves fast, and I want to slow down enough to really live it.
Create more—from the heart and without fear. No more playing small. If it’s in me, it’s meant to be shared.
Take care of my physical and mental well-being. Health is the foundation for everything else I want to do.
Say “no” without guilt and “yes” without fear. Boundaries are a form of self-respect, and I’m leaning into that.
Continue building something meaningful—whether in business, relationships, or personal growth. Purpose is the goal.

🎂 Celebrating Me, Inside and Out

Whether I’m surrounded by people or spending the day in quiet gratitude, today is about celebrating life—my life. And that in itself is a gift.

If you’re reading this and it’s your birthday too—or just a season of change—I encourage you to pause and write your own birthday reflection. You’d be surprised how much beauty you’ll discover when you look inward.

Here’s to another year of lessons, laughter, and light. Happy birthday to me—and to anyone else embracing a new beginning.

Samuel Okafor

Author
Maintaining A Positive Lane